nawing & nashing of teeth

You know in the bible I've read sevral times kind of a discription of hell. It gets discribed as a lot of nawing and nashing of teeth. In some ways i'm looking at the domestic household and demomestic violance, are we creating our own personal hell on earth? By not living by Gods grace, is that our curse? It's kind of strange when you take a step out of the box and have a look what is going on, it always seems there is no happy mediam in marriges, you can uselly class marriges in two different classes:1- Living in bliss and totally in love, or : 2- living in constant termoil and totaly a odds. And if you have a look at each relationships lifesytles more often then not one couple is living in gods grace the other is not.
So what do you do about it? Prayer is the only thing that has been any help in my case. It's like when the old rich guy wants to come back from hell and warn his sons. But it was of no use , it wouldn't matter what he would say they wouldn't believe him. The work has to be done by the holy spirt. So I just prey and trust in god more and more eachday.